Anxiety Self Help requires self diagnosis and then befriending the anxiety
Anxiety self help can never be as precise as for depression. So it may well be that external help will be necessary – as long as it is the right kind of help. The strategy of this self help for anxiety page is to invite you to do as much as you can on your own but also to discover more precisely what it is that is at the heart of the problem.
The five steps to your anxiety relief and anxiety self help
Step one is to immerse yourself in understanding what anxiety is – and the role invariably played by the trauma like firing in the limbic system (or more precisely the amygdale).
Step two of anxiety self help is to identify the trauma or traumas that will be the source of the unconscious and uncontrollable firing of the flight response – the prime source of the anxiety.
It may be obvious to you – an abuse, an accident, or an awful panic attack. It might though be more subtle and imprecise – such as an extended period of loneliness or lack of support, or it might be quite surprising – such as an experience of humiliation that you have almost forgotten.
Step three of anxiety self help will be learning relaxation techniques and methods that work for you and then to ensure that you have some mastery over them.
The purpose is to keep arousal as low as possible so that you are less at risk from boiling over. A good way to see the anxiety is as the temperature of a pan of milk on the stove – the lower is the heat then the less likely is the milk to boil over if the gas is turned up to full heat for a short period.
Step four is to discover what are the precise sources and patterns of your anxiety – by awareness and note-taking and a careful reading of the various anxiety pages on this site including panic attacks, PTSD, phobias and Generalised Anxiety Disorder.
Step five is to make friends with your anxiety and to remove its power over you. The building of that better relationship with anxiety is normally, after de-traumatising the most important element of anxiety healing – as your relationship with fear/anxiety will be unhealthy.